Came across this a few times on the net.....

Hmm...

i dunno wat to say abt this............

perhaps can say it suits a lot of ppl i noe...as well as me included??

but also there's no one to blame actually.............

no one is wrong in the game of love...........


well, hell, no one is wrong to love and to be loved.

the only wrong thing is that..........
i was wrong never to pursue her, instead i was just waiting by her side, even though i noe i will never be contented...................
should love be selfless or selfish?

either? both?

i dunno.


all i noe for now is, you have made me fallen for you again.






well, here is the text which i read a few times THIS 2 months already...

"What Happened to All the Nice Guys?"



I see this question posted with some regularity in the personals section, so I thought I'd take a minute to explain things to the ladies out there that haven't figured it out.

What happened to all the nice guys?

The answer is simple: you did.

See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He'd tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn't feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were ****ing treated you.

At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were "just friends." Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.

Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you werent dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"

Well, once again, you did.

You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive "just-a-" friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an asshole than he ever wanted to be.

Fact is, now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.

So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:

1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass.
3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab ahold of it.

I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.

If you were five years younger.

So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've ****ed yourself over. You're getting older, after all. It's time to excise the bull**** and deal with reality. You didn't want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't ****ing want you, now.

Sincerely,
A Recovering Nice Guy

Back in SG~!

I'M BACK!


wahahah


actually i was back in SG on the 13th may...
but lazy to blog lar...hahaha and busy with temple stuff...

anyway will blog abt the taiwan trip soon..coz i lent my frend my memory card and just gotten it back 2 days ago.........


so wat have i been doing??

temple stuff lors...

resting at home and playing game(shin sango musou 4)

and...

attended a very special occasion over the last weekend =)))



yesterday thought would slack at home also...but suddenly mother asked if i wanna go expo food fair...i thought it ended on sunday, but apparantly yesterday(tues) was the last day...so i accompanied my mother and her frends to expo for the food fair...


in summary, nothing fantastic there, but ok lar...i spend $20 bucks on food alone =xx

here are the pictures..........


siew mai...and seriously...i've eaten better.....


2 prawn siew mai and 2 scallop siew mai...but.......not very nice lar :(


expo hall 5.......not a lot of ppl yet....haha

meatballs for sample! i ate a couple of balls per flavour *yum*

takopachi, gong wan(taiwan meat balls), german sausage

erm...thai deep fried toufu with rojak sauce and some spicy sauce...

DURIAN PUFFS!!!

mango crepe...quite nice de..the mango filling quite sweet....


that'll all for the food fair yesterday...




so now i'm at amk lib..
today my house whole block changed electrical board and main parts..so whole day no electricity..
then switched on laptop to use...only to see it go into hibernation mode within 3 mins of usage...
so i came down to amk lib to use and charge laptop...

so bored =P

okie...i go do something else le...
byebye

1st May 2008 - Labour Day~

happy labour day everyone!!!


Leaving Singapore in abt 4 hrs time..


be back on 12th may (i hope.)

if i'm not back...




though i haven't written any will yet....but.............dun be sad for me

take carez everyone...


take carez to everyone i noe in sg..
penny, good luck for the rest of ur papers...dun keep on thinking abt ur ex le ok?? jia you~ and dun listen to sad songs all the time lar...buy u present for ur 21st bday in 20+ days time =P lol...i not scared u noe i'm getting u present coz u have no idea i got a blog, therefore i feel stupid for writing this......muahaha...anyway take good care of urself ah...

karen, hey...dun get too emotional over ur job...sure it sux...and they're taking advantage of u..but dun get them get the better of u ok?? u can do it de~ take carez and all the best! *though u also dunno i abandoned my old blog and using this now...still...i want to write this down in case....*

take carez to edmw butties, esp xiao lin, wakie, xiao r, xiao don don, pinkist, unker darkling, xiao poke, gilchie, xiuxiu, yings and all....

and take carez to meow too...hope life's been getting better for u...


byez